This Barrie 360 article is brought to you by Maniva Armstrong.
Moving can be stressful for any family. When you have a child on the autism spectrum, that stress can feel even bigger. New environments, disrupted routines, and uncertainty can all be overwhelming, not just for your child, but for you too.
The good news is, with the right planning and support, a move doesn’t have to feel chaotic.
This guide shares practical strategies, local resources in Barrie & Simcoe County, and helpful ideas that may make the transition smoother for your family. While not every strategy may work for your situation, many of these approaches can be adjusted to help ease your move and help everyone settle in more comfortably.
Table of contents:
- Talking About Big Changes
- Key Considerations When House Hunting
- Choosing an Inclusive Neighbourhood
- Autism Support Resources in Barrie and Simcoe County
- Planning the Move with Your Child in Mind
- Selling Your Home When Your Child Is on the Autism Spectrum
- Transitioning After the Move
- How the Right Realtor Can Help
Talking about big changes
Helping your child understand the move before it happens can reduce stress and make the transition smoother. Here are communication strategies that parents often find helpful:
1. Use age-appropriate language
When explaining the move, use simple, clear terms that match your child’s level of understanding. Once you’ve settled on what you’re going to say, make sure everyone talking with your child uses similar phrasing.
For younger children or those who prefer short explanations:
- “We’re going to live in a new house soon. You’ll have your own room there.”
- “We’re packing our things so they can go to the new house.”
- “Soon we’ll sleep in a different bedroom, but your toys will come with you.”
For children who can understand slightly more detail:
- “We are moving to [neighbourhood/area] next month. The new house has a big yard and your room will look the same as it does now.”
- “We’re going to pack our things in boxes. The movers will take them to the new house, and we will see them there.”
- “After we move, you’ll have the same bedtime routine and your favorite toys will be set up in your room.”
2. Use step-by-step visual cues
Break the move into small, predictable steps using pictures, storyboards, or simple calendars. This can include steps like packing toys and clothes, moving furniture, driving to the new house, setting up their room, etc.
These tools can help your child see what will happen and when, turning abstract steps into something more tangible.
3. Use storytelling
If visual cues aren’t enough on their own, try weaving the steps into a short, reassuring story. This helps your child picture what will happen and feel more confident about the move.
There are different ways to tell the story.
Some children may respond better to stories that are about them and their situation:
"First, we’re packing up our toys and favorite things in boxes. Then, we’ll put them in the car and drive to our new house. When we arrive, we’ll unpack your things together, and you can put your toys exactly where you like in your new room. We’ll even set up your reading corner and bedtime blanket, so it feels just like home. And don’t worry, we’ll keep our evening routine the same, so bedtime will still be familiar and calm."
Other children may connect better with a story about someone else going through the same experience:
"Milo had a big adventure ahead. His toys were getting ready to move to a new home! Today, he helped pack Teddy into a cozy box. Tomorrow, they would all ride together in the car with mom and dad to a brand-new room where Teddy could sit on the same shelf and Milo’s blanket would be waiting in his reading corner. Milo wondered if bedtime would feel different, but when he saw his familiar blanket and storybook, he knew everything would feel just like home. Milo smiled. He was ready for his new adventure."
4. Normalize feelings
When you’re getting ready to move, acknowledge that it’s okay to feel anxious or upset. Encourage your child to express emotions and provide reassurance that their routines and favorite things will be preserved as much as possible.
Phrases to reassure and normalize feelings:
- “It’s okay to feel nervous. We will take it one step at a time.”
- “Even though the house is new, we can keep our routines the same.”
- “We’ll bring all your favorite things with us, so you can still play and relax.”
5. Practice small transitions
Some children understand changes better when they can act them out in a safe environment. For example, let them pack a favorite toy or comfort item and “move” it to another room. This gives them a sense of control and prepares them for the actual move.
Key considerations when house hunting
When searching for a new home, it helps to think beyond the number of bedrooms or bathrooms. Certain features can make daily life smoother, support routines, and provide spaces where your child can feel comfortable and independent.
Here are some important items to consider adding to your list of must haves:
1. Proximity to services and schools
There are a number of useful organizations and resources across Barrie and Simcoe County. When looking for a home, consider how close you’ll be to schools, therapy centers, and any other essential services. Shorter commutes reduce stress for the whole family and make routines easier to maintain.
2. Outdoor spaces and safe play areas
Look for a backyard, nearby parks, or quiet streets where your child can play safely. Access to outdoor spaces can help with energy release, sensory needs, and relaxation.
3. Layouts that support routines and independence
Open layouts, clear pathways, and separate spaces for different activities can make daily routines smoother. Think about areas for homework, play, meals, and relaxation.
4. Space for sensory rooms or calm-down areas
If your child benefits from a sensory or quiet space, be sure to look for a home that has a small corner or room where you can set up a safe space for them.
5. Lighting, noise, and furniture considerations
Take your time exploring any homes you’re considering. There’s no need to rush the process. Take the time to notice natural light, noise levels, and how rooms feel. Avoid spaces that are too bright, echoey, or cluttered, and consider furniture placement that allows movement without obstacles.
6. Safety and accessibility adjustments
Check for potential hazards including stairs, sharp edges, and “attractive nuisances” such as bodies of water or busy streets nearby. Plan any necessary safety modifications in advance so that you can be ready to complete them as soon as you move in.
7. Elopement prevention
Safety looks different for every child, but for many on the spectrum, "wandering" or elopement is a significant concern. When touring homes, look for properties that easily accommodate high-security deadbolts, window sensors, or door chimes to provide immediate alerts. Prioritize yards with existing, non-climbable fencing, or evaluate the feasibility of installing a secure perimeter.
8. Future flexibility
Don’t just focus on where your child is today. Think about how your home can adapt as your child grows. This may mean extra rooms, versatile spaces, or adjustable layouts that can help meet changing needs.
Choosing an inclusive neighbourhood
Whether you're looking at quiet cul-de-sacs in Barrie or the more rural areas of Simcoe County, finding the right neighbourhood can have a meaningful impact on your child’s daily comfort, routines, and opportunities to connect with peers.
Local realtor Maniva Armstrong shares:
"As both a realtor and a parent of a child on the autism spectrum, I understand that moving isn’t just about finding the right house—it’s about creating a safe, supportive environment where a child can thrive. Preparation is everything. I always encourage families to think beyond the home itself and consider the surrounding community—proximity to schools, access to parks or quiet outdoor spaces, nearby autism services, and low-traffic neighbourhoods can make a significant difference. A well-planned move can help reduce stress and create a smoother, more positive transition for the entire family.."
With these considerations in mind, Maniva recommends looking at the following factors when evaluating potential communities:
1. Quiet streets and low traffic
Look for neighbourhoods with calm roads, slower speed limits, and minimal through-traffic. This makes outdoor play safer and helps reduce sensory overload.
2. Accessible parks and recreation areas
Parks, accessible playgrounds, trails, and community centers that are nearby and easy to reach encourage physical activity and social engagement.
3. Inclusive programs and support networks
Check for local programs, community groups, or clubs that welcome children with diverse needs. Libraries, recreation centers, and parent networks can be valuable resources.
4. Schools with strong special education programs
Research local schools and their programs for children who need extra support. Consider their approach to inclusion, class sizes, and available resources.
5. Extracurricular activities and social opportunities
Look for after-school programs, sports, arts, or interest-based clubs that match your child’s interests and abilities. Access to structured social opportunities can help your child build confidence and friendships.
By prioritizing these elements, you can find a neighbourhood that supports your child’s independence, learning, and social growth so your home becomes a place where the whole family can thrive.
Autism support resources in Barrie and Simcoe County
Connecting with local support systems early can help your family settle into the community with confidence. Here are several well-established organizations providing services, advocacy, and recreation within our region:
Autism Ontario (Simcoe County Chapter)
A vital starting point for families, offering navigation support for the Ontario Autism Program (OAP), local events, and parent support groups specifically for those living in Barrie and the surrounding townships.
IBI Behavioural Services
IBI Behavioural Services is a local provider offering ABA and Intensive Behavioural Intervention programs designed to support children with autism in developing communication, social, and daily living skills. For families relocating to Barrie or Simcoe County, researching nearby therapy providers like IBI can be an important step in maintaining continuity of care and routine.
"At IBI Behavioural Services, we empower children and families through compassionate, evidence-based support, creating individualized pathways that build skills, confidence, and independence — Unlocking Potential. Building Confidence."
Kerry’s Place Autism Services
As one of Canada’s largest service providers, the Simcoe County branch of Kerry's Place offers evidence-based behavioral services, respite options, and social skills groups for children and young adults.
Children’s Treatment Network (CTN)
Providing a wide range of intake services and inclusion specialists, CTN is a hub for families in Simcoe County seeking occupational therapy, physiotherapy, and specialty clinic.
Lighthouse Occupational Therapy
Lighthouse Occupational Therapy provides assessment, intervention, and consultation services to help children and adults build the skills needed for daily living, independence, and confidence. Services may support areas such as sensory processing, motor skills, self-regulation, and daily routines.
"Moving can be tough for any child, but for neurodivergent kids, new environments, routines, and sensory changes can feel especially overwhelming. Preparing ahead helps—visit the new home (in person, photos, or video!), and give your child chances to ask questions and share preferences to build a sense of control. Keep comfort items accessible during the move, and once you arrive, re-establish routines and set up calming, familiar spaces right away. With patience and predictability, this big change can become an opportunity for growth, confidence, and feeling safe - in a new place!"
Simcoe County EarlyON Child and Family Centres
A great resource for younger children, EarlyON Child and Family Centres often host inclusive play-based learning sessions and can help parents connect with local early intervention resources in the Barrie area.
Empower Simcoe
Empower Simcoe provides a variety of community-based services, including transition planning and supported living, helping families navigate long-term goals within the local community.
Unique Minds Academy (UMA)
Located in Barrie, UMA is a Ministry of Education licensed private school that provides a neuro-affirming environment for students from JK to Grade 8. They specialize in personalized education plans for children with Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD, offering on-site therapies like OT and Speech Pathology to bridge the gap between traditional schooling and specialized support.
"At UMA, we nurture an inclusive environment that empowers every student to grow with confidence and reach their full potential through individualized education and dedicated support — Where Diverse Minds Shine!"
Planning the move with your child in mind
When moving with a child who thrives on structure, preparation is key. This section focuses on actionable strategies to make the transition smoother, from organizing familiar spaces and maintaining routines, to managing potential stressors and involving your child in small decisions.
These steps can help the move feel more predictable and manageable for the whole family.
1. Visit the new home and neighbourhood in advance
If possible, expose your child to small changes in advance. This can include visiting the new neighbourhood, exploring the backyard or walking through the new home.
2. Maintain routines whenever possible
Predictable routines provide stability during change. Try to find ways to keep mealtimes, bedtimes, and favorite activities consistent before, during, and after the move.
3. Pack thoughtfully
To make the transition smoother, take extra time to pack your belongings.
- Label boxes clearly.
- Keep essential items in a safe space where they’ll be accessible before, during and after the move.
- Pack a “first-night” box with comfort items, favorite toys, bedtime routines, power bar and chargers.
- Involve your child in packing small items when appropriate to give them a sense of control.
4. Set up familiar spaces first
When you arrive at the new home, prioritize unpacking your child’s room and comfort areas so they have a familiar, calming space as soon as you arrive. This helps them settle in quickly.
Whether you go to the house ahead of time or let your child help, will depend on your unique situation.
5. Create quiet zones during the move
Designate areas where your child can retreat if things feel overwhelming. This may be a corner with books, blankets, or fidget items or a safe room that is away from all of the activity. Knowing there’s a safe space available that can reduce stress during packing, moving, or unpacking.
For some parents, this step may include you and your child heading to the new home while someone else coordinates loading trucks and transporting items from your old home.
6. Identify potential triggers and plan ahead
Big moves can introduce new stressors, such as loud noises, crowds, or packing chaos. Consider what may trigger anxiety for your child during the move and plan strategies to minimize exposure or provide coping tools.
7. Work with supportive professionals
If using movers or a real estate agent, communicate your child’s needs in advance. Agents who are patient and flexible can help make scheduling and showings less stressful.
8. Include your child in small decisions
Even small choices, such as deciding the order of unpacking, choosing where a toy goes, or which room to set up first, can give your child a sense of control and participation.
9. Debrief and check in after the move
Once settled, talk with your child about the transition. Celebrate small wins, acknowledge feelings, and adjust routines as needed. Early attention to emotional wellbeing helps your child settle more comfortably.
Selling your home when your child is on the autism spectrum: What families should know
Selling a home comes with extra challenges when you’re trying to maintain routines and minimize disruption. Showings, last-minute cleaning, and unfamiliar people in your space can all make this stage of the move particularly difficult to manage.
Planning ahead and working with the right professionals can make this process more manageable.
Here are some practical strategies families often find helpful:
1. Minimize disruptions during showings
Try to group showings into specific days or time blocks where possible. This can make the schedule more predictable and reduce repeated disruptions.
2. Create a predictable showing routine
If showings are expected, build a simple routine around them. This might include:
- A checklist of what happens before leaving
- A planned outing during the showing
- A consistent return routine afterward
Predictability can make frequent interruptions easier to manage.
3. Prepare your child for people entering the home
Explain ahead of time that other people may need to visit the house while it is for sale. Use clear language about what to expect and when possible, provide advance notice of showings.
4. Have a plan for where to go during showings
Identify comfortable places your child can go during showings, such as a familiar park, a relative’s home, or a favorite store. Having a consistent “showing day plan” can make transitions easier.
5. Work with an understanding real estate agent
The right agent can make a significant difference. Look for someone willing to:
- Provide as much notice as possible
- Limit unnecessary showings
- Be flexible with scheduling
- Respect your family’s routines and needs
6. Reduce sensory disruptions when possible
Strong cleaning smells, bright staging lights, or constant changes to furniture can be difficult. If staging is necessary, try to keep your child’s key spaces as consistent as possible until the move.
Transitioning after the move
Moving day may be over, but the transition period is just beginning. The first few weeks in a new home can set the tone for how comfortable your child feels in their new environment.
1. Establish routines quickly
Try to re-establish familiar routines as soon as possible. Keeping consistent times for meals, homework, downtime, and bedtime can help restore a sense of normalcy.
2. Set up familiar spaces first
If you weren’t able to fully set things up on day one, continue prioritizing the spaces your child uses most. Familiar bedding, favorite toys, and known layouts can help the new house start to feel predictable.
3. Check in on emotional wellbeing
Some children may seem to adjust quickly, while others may need more time. Watch for changes in behaviour or stress levels and make space for conversations about how they’re feeling about the new home.
4. Explore the neighbourhood gradually
Introduce new surroundings at a comfortable pace. This could mean short walks, visiting a nearby park, or identifying familiar places like grocery stores or libraries.
5. Connect with new supports and programs
If your child participates in therapy, school supports, or community programs, try to establish those connections early. Having familiar types of support in place can make the new environment feel more stable.
Small steps taken early can help your child feel more comfortable, confident, and settled as your family adjusts to your new home.
How the right realtor can help
Not every real estate transaction looks the same. When a family is balancing a move with the needs of a child on the spectrum, the process often requires more thoughtful planning, clearer communication, and a willingness to adapt timelines when needed.
As Maniva Armstrong explains:
"Every move is a big change, but for families navigating autism, preparation can turn that change into a positive new beginning. I guide my clients to focus on both the home and the lifestyle it supports, including safe, low-traffic areas, nearby community centres, access to specialized services, and spaces where children can feel calm and secure. With the right planning, families can move not just into a house, but into a community that truly supports them."
Working with a realtor who understands these considerations can help reduce unnecessary stress and create a more supportive and predictable experience for the whole family.
1. Understanding sensory and routine needs
An experienced realtor can help plan showings, visits, and timelines in ways that respect your child’s routines and sensitivities, helping avoid unnecessary disruptions whenever possible.
2. Patience and flexible timelines
Some families may need more time to prepare for showings, visits, or moving dates. The right realtor understands that flexibility isn’t a luxury, it’s sometimes a necessity.
3. Helping families find the right long-term fit
Beyond price and location, the right realtor can help you evaluate practical details like layout, neighbourhood feel, proximity to supports, and other factors that impact daily life.
4. Supporting communication and planning
From coordinating showing schedules to helping plan possession dates, a thoughtful realtor can help create a more predictable process that works for your whole family.
Choosing the right realtor won’t remove every challenge that comes with moving, but having a partner who prioritizes Autism Awareness can make the process feel more manageable and better aligned with your family’s needs.
Supporting your child through a successful move
Moving with a child on the autism spectrum may require extra planning, flexibility, and patience, but many families find that preparation and the right support can make a meaningful difference.
There may be challenges along the way, and not every strategy will work perfectly. What matters most is finding approaches that work for your child, maintaining the routines that matter most, and giving everyone time to adjust.
If you are preparing for a move and want guidance from someone who understands the importance of balancing real estate decisions with family needs, working with the right support team can help you move forward with confidence.
